Amazon Asks: Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey has got it all going in the right direction these days. He was a "matchmaker" on NBC's Ready For Love, he's embarking on a speaking tour, and he's just published a best-selling book. The title says it all: Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. The Amazon Editors reached out to Matthew to learn a little more about him.
Describe your book in 10 words or less?
A practical guide to understanding men and finding love.
What's on your nightstand/bedside table/Kindle?
The Great Gatsby – F. Scott Fitzgerald.
Favorite books of all time?
A Christmas Carol, Peter Pan, How to Win Friends and Influence People – I discovered them all when I was a teenager and have all had a huge impact on my life ever since.
Pen Envy - Book you wish you'd written?
Hundreds, but probably The Great Gatsby. In little over 100 pages it tells you everything about life, America, striving for something better, dreams and expectations, and the tragedy that can come with getting exactly what you want (or think you want).
Book that made you want to become a writer?
The Road Less Travelled – It’s one of the most honest and down-to-earth books about life and love ever written, and it bravely dispels a lot of the bad myths about romantic love and relationships that people hold onto for years.
Most memorable author moment?
Feeling and smelling my own book in a bookstore! I think for anyone who loves books you fall in love with the object itself. Especially when it’s your own.
What are you obsessed with now?
Boxing – It’s my escape and outlet. It’s where I get to leave all the talking and words behind and just relieve stress.
What are you stressed about now?
My speaking tour of the US. I’m constantly hopping between states over the next month, and I finally understand how comedians feel when they take a show on the road and all the madness that comes with that. It’s mainly the instability of it all that becomes stressful, but having moved to LA from London over the last year I’ve had to get used to change quickly.
What are you psyched about now?
In the next couple of months I’m releasing a programme to turn people into masters of human dynamics in both their personal and professional lives. It’s exciting because it’s about your entire lifestyle and people skills in work, health, friendship, family, and relationships.
What talent or superpower would you like to have (not including flight or invisibility)?
Damn, you stole my two favourites! Top of the list after that has to be the ability to stop time – you could have an unbelievable amount of fun. If not, then breathing underwater or being omnilingual (the ability to speak any language).
What's your most prized/treasured possession?
A watch my Dad gave me just before I left for Los Angeles. My Dad has always loved watches and him giving his to me at a key moment in my life was a touching moment.
What's next for you?
I’m on Eva Longoria’s NBC TV show Ready for Love as one of the expert matchmakers. I’m also touring the US giving my ‘Get the Guy’ seminars, and plan to release a lifestyle course called ‘IMPACT’, which is something I’m really excited about.
I love the line: “Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around”
It’s from the movie Vanilla Sky, and the sentiment reflects my absolute core belief in the power individuals have in every tiny moment. It’s the same with dating. It only takes one tiny decision to take that risk, to be sexy in a way you’ve never tried before, to flash a cheeky smile that puts you on someone’s radar, or to speak to that person who can’t take their eyes off you, and suddenly the world opens up. People’s lives can change in a single minute in those precious everyday moments, which is something I’ve always strived to demonstrate with Get the Guy.
Favorite method of procrastination? Temptation? Vice?
I’m not a big TV viewer, but I am one of those people who can burn through an HBO boxset in about three days. But I’ve somehow convinced myself that ‘Mad Men’ is a form of research so I’ve reached a comfortable place with it now.
What do you collect?
Movie soundtracks – I’m addicted to great music from films and love collecting my favourite composers – Hans Zimmer, John Williams, Howard Shore, James Newton Howard to name a few.
Best piece of fan mail you ever got?
It’s one I mention in the book. It’s an email from my oldest client, who simply sent me this:
“I want you to pass on a message to everyone you coach. I’m 83 years old and I’m retired. Through your coaching I’ve met the man of my dreams. We’re spending our days right now building a boat, and when it’s done, we’re going to sail away in it together. If it can happen to me at my age, with everything I’ve been through in my life, it can happen to anyone.”
My heart swells every time I read that. And her message that it can happen at any age, no matter what you think is holding you back, is the most important lesson I’ve ever learnt about love.