Some Things Never Change: "Fear of Flying" Still Soars

Erica Jong

This month marks the 40th anniversary of Erica Jong's novel Fear of Flying, in which a 30-ish woman seizes and celebrates her power as a sensual woman. For women of a certain age (which would include this writer, who, by the way, hates that expression!), it was a book that changed our lives. But how do young women feel about  the book and about Jong, whose daughter, the 30something writer Molly Jong Fast, often introduces affectionately  as "my mother the sex object" or "my mother, the feminist icon"? I talked with Jong about what her book means to several generations.

Sara Nelson: Fear of Flying has sold more than 20 million copies worldwide over four decades. There have been frankly sexual books before and since [see chart below], but this one is still considered groundbreaking. To what do you attribute its staying power?

Erica Jong: I think people love books that help them change their lives, in whatever way. Books that give them courage. In the era that I grew up in, we had many novels about women who were in scary, awful marriages, couldn't break free, couldn't imagine their lives in a different pattern... so in a way I was rebelling against that when I wrote Fear of Flying. I wanted to write about a woman who changed her life. A lot of the books we read about women, the women were either bodies or minds, never the two together. I remember thinking I wanted to write a book about a woman who was very smart and very sexual. There weren't a lot of them out there.

SN: What have readers said to you over the years about Fear of Flying?

EJ: Very often I'll hear from men who say 'Whenever I saw that book on a woman's night table, I knew I was going to get lucky.' But women have often said that the book gave them a lot of relief. "I thought I was a freak," they'll say. "I thought I was a bad girl, because I was having 'bad thoughts' about sex. And then I read this and realized I was normal." Sometimes, I'd be standing there after a reading, and women would come up to me and say, "I remember exactly where I was when I read THAT BOOK' -- and they always said 'THAT BOOK.'" Sometimes, now, when I'm walking through Grand Central Station, someone will notice me and yell out: "Keep on writing." That's nice. That's really nice.

SN: In the novel, a woman named Isadora Wing, discovers she can have 'zipless f#$@,' a/k/a unencumbered sex just for the pleasure of it. That was a revolutionary idea at the time, but maybe today it's a little less shocking. If you were to write a Fear of Flying for the21st century, how would it be different from the original?

EJ: Actually, I don't think it would be all that different, at least not in terms of the broader themes of the novel. Being a woman today is about the same stuff as it was then: embracing your own soul, finding a man (or woman) who celebrates you for who you are, having your own self but also being able to have an intimate relationship with a partner.

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There's a book that is always missing from these kind of lists. My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday.

I stumbled across it via an odd hit via Lexis/Nexus back in the 90s, a scathing review that proclaimed it vile and all sorts of other things. Naturally I was curious and got a copy and read it.

Felt like getting hit with a tsunami of a crash course in female sexuality as it's essentially an excellent curated anthology of female sexual fantasies collected by Nancy Friday. A thorough collection of sexual fiction by hundreds of women all over the country yet the book falls under non-fiction.

I then understood the reason for the initial review. Viewed in the context of the time it was published, 1972, it smashed to smithereens the perception that sexuality was strictly for men. Women have sexual fantasies? NOT POSSIBLE! Yet this single book showed that *many* (if not all) women do and that they run the gamut all the way up to BDSM.

I count myself lucky that I knew by the time I read MSG, around the age of 19, that there was nothing wrong with fantasizing. Yet, I found it very enlightening and educational with regards to my own sexuality and understanding that of others.

The most important lesson being that the fantasies that play into the world of BDSM have nothing to do with a desire to be raped or sexually violated but a desire to yield control and left free to succumb to the sensations & pleasure. It's complex and her book is just a start at understanding that as it's only one of twelve basic types of fantasies that she identified. I'd also recommend Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns.

Anne Rice tapped into this beautifully with her Beauty trilogy, originally published under a pen name. There's now a foreword to the trilogy (free to read via Amazon's Look Inside feature) that is a letter by Anne to her readers explaining why she wrote it, published anonymously via a pseudonym, then decided to republish under her own name later on.

I wish people were more aware of MSG because quite frankly, the popularity of 50 Shades books concern me deeply. " Troubling Message in Fifty Shades of Grey" by avflox, does an excellent job in pointing out how dangerous it is to get things mixed up. For my own decision not to read these, one person's personal comment to me put the final nail in Christian's coffin. A survivor of sexual violence, yet possessing a very healthy libido, a fan of the aforementioned Beauty trilogy, and the verdict on 50 Shades: "boring & unimaginative sex".

Back, to Erica Jong and the rest of the list.
I've not read any of them but I look forward to reading Fear of Flying and Lady Chatterly. Never too late for *good* fiction!

Posted by: Megan | Thursday September 26, 2013 at 1:41 AM

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